Rules & Regulations
All members attending VAS functions are expected to be courteous, law abiding and friendly at all times.
1. No Means NO! No exceptions! Zero Tolerance!
2. Anyone applying for membership and admission to VAS must agree to be bound by all rules, regulations & By-Laws; they must certify that they are at least 21 years of age; and that they will not use their membership to engage in prostitution or pandering. This includes the possession or use of any illegal or controlled substances in or on the property of any club function.
3. We reserve the right to ask anyone to leave, revoke membership of any person who becomes obnoxious, unruly, engages in any illegal acts, or casts aspersions against VAS. VAS reserve's the right to refuse admission and membership to anyone without cause or explanation, as is the right of a private club.
4. Management also prohibits the use of cameras or recording devices of any kind, and shall pursue such legal remedies available in order to preserve the rights of the club and its members.
5. The applicant will also acknowledge that they are aware that VAS is a private club established for the use of the membership, certifying also that free expression among consenting adults is not offensive and must recognize the constitutional rights of the members.
6. Dress to impress! Dress Code is upper casual. Baseball caps, t-shirts and work boots is NOT acceptable unless part of a theme party! If your clothing attire is not acceptable in normal public events, please wear a cover up in the common public areas of the hotel or any club venue.
7. Cell phone usage during a VAS party is not allowed. Should you have a call, please leave the party until your conversation is complete. Webcasting, podcasting is strictly prohibited unless sanctioned by VAS.
8. Arguing, bickering, fighting or disrespectful behavior between you and your mate or with any other members of VS is not acceptable.
9. Respect those who wish to be left alone. Do not be pushy or insistent upon participation in any individual or club activities. No harassment!
10. No one under the age of 21 is allowed on a secured floor of a hotel or at any club function where alcohol is. This includes inside your hotel room, around the pool, or in the house.
11. Members can only recommend other couples (male female) or a single female for membership, but VAS solely reserves the right to approve or disaprove any person from membership. No single males!
12. We reserve the right to charge a fee of our choosing to any prospective new member for membership. Fee is quoted by the owners of VAS and solely at the discretion of the owners and not necessarily the same for everyone.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: How do we become Virginia's Secret members ("SecretCard Holders")?
A: To become a member of Virginia's Secret you must be a couple or single female and have an open-minded view of human sexuality. You must be an active Member of our website Social Feed, which includes but not limited to, a profile and picture in place on the Social feed. You can then be referred by one of our "SecretCard Holders" to attend "One" event. After you attend one event you may be invited to join as a "SecretCard" Holder/Member.
Q: Why do we have to become "SecretCard" Holder to continue attending VAS events?
A: We require "SecretCard" memberships to keep our legal status as a private club, which allows us to provide a place where both women and men can "dress down" to a g-string (or nothing) and also assures privacy for all the members.
Q: What if we don't want to "swap" just yet (if ever) but are interested in enjoying the sexually uninhibited environment of the club?
A: No problem! At Virginia's Secret, your body is always under YOUR control and the other patrons understand and respect that. Virginia's Secret is a place to meet other folks in a "no-pressure" environment. If you are invited to a "party" and you don't wish to attend/participate, a simple "no thank you" will always suffice. We have a highly trained security staff at each and every event.
Q: What does "off-premise" club mean? or "on-premise"?
A: This is a tough question to answer because this type of lifestyle is common to a large demographic cross-section of people. On the average, there are a large number of professional types of people that constitute our membership. But for the most part, it's people like yourself, who live and work around others, whom you would never suspect that are "in the lifestyle." It may surprise you if you know how many of your friends and neighbors are involved in swinging. Some of the most common similarities between our members are a love of people, making new friends, a VERY strong and secure loving relationship, combined with a love of life and a desire to live it to it's fullest!
Q: What kind of people go to Virginia's Secret?
A: The strongest age demographics of the membership are couples from their late twenties to their mid forties, but there are many couples of every age from 21 through the "senior years." With our membership being as large as it is, on any given night there's a good chance you'll find some couples you can relate to at the club.
Q: What is the average age of the crowd?
A: The strongest age demographics of the membership are couples from their late twenties to their mid forties, but there are many couples of every age from 21 through the "senior years." With our membership being as large as it is, on any given night there's a good chance you'll find some couples you can relate to at the club.
Q: What goes on in the club?
A: FUN!!…well that's the short answer. Dancing, socializing, pool parties, road trips, house parties, M & G's, we sometimes have live bands at our events, special events, and having a good time making new friends. Yes, there is play time for those that want it. Most of our events we do provide (when possible) open and closed play rooms, sex swings, dance pole, and hot tub.
Q: Do the ladies have to dress sexily to attend?
A: Not at all. You are merely "permitted" to, because this is a private club. There are many ladies that do dress provocatively, and many that don't, so either way, dress to suit your comfort level. All we ask is that you not be surprised (or offended) by this playful behavior and liberal dress code.
Q: What kind of music do you play?
A: This is another tough one….the short answer? Everything. Being a DJ in this club is a very difficult job (please appreciate their efforts) because, as opposed to most nightclubs (i.e, rock bars, dance clubs, country-n-western clubs, etc) ONE type of music is not the common interest of ALL the patrons. We play "hits" of all types of music, but it's predominately Top-40 Dance with some rock (60's, 70's, 80's, and 90's), R&B, and country thrown in during the night, and the DJ will also take specific song requests from the crowd. If you have a certain song that you would like to hear feel free to ask them to play it. Do keep in mind, however, that not all the patrons have the same musical taste as you, and the DJ's will be doing their best to please everyone, so if you don't like a song being played, as the saying goes about Virginia weather, "wait a minute and it will change". No matter what we're playing, there will always be a lot of sexy bump-n-grind beats for you to dance to. This is a club where people are socializing that you might never have envisioned anywhere else. Our clientele consists of every walk of life from cowboys to attorneys, from construction workers to bankers (and a few we've promised we wouldn't mention!)…and we have never had a "major disturbance" of any kind!
Q: Why do so many clubs such as Virginia's Secret prohibit single, unescorted males from becoming members?
A: Because, this type of lifestyle is typically practiced by consenting couples. If we permitted single men to attend regularly, we would not be any different from any other "generic" nightclub. Some couples do, occasionally, enjoy the company of single males and it is for this reason that we restrict admittance to our club ONLY to single males that are invited guests of member couples in good standing. In addition, we have very specific guidelines that the single men must adhere to while accompanied by a couple. We will gladly elaborate on this at your request.
Q: How do we meet others once we are in the club?
A: While an open attitude about sexual behavior is a major reason for the club's existance, most couples ("SecretCard Holders") in the club are primarily interested in making new friends, not just sexual partners. Always remember that the word "hello" means just that – not "let's party." Try to make new friends, and most likely everything else you are looking for will happen. By the same token, actively mingling with other couples is encouraged; we understand that some people are more naturally outgoing than others, but if you are interested in meeting people, the best way to do it is to take the initiative to go up and say "hi!" The same open communication that allowed you as a couple to be able to participate in this lifestyle should be used when talking with other couples. Communication between all parties is the single most important factor for enjoyment of this lifestyle. Just because you are blown away with the great looking person you just met does not mean your significant other will be equally impressed with his/her partner. In other words, don't assume, just ask.
Q: Who should not come to Virginia's Secret?
A: While an open attitude about sexual behavior is a major reason for the club's existance, most couples ("SecretCard Holders") in the club are primarily interested in making new friends, not just sexual partners. Always remember that the word "hello" means just that – not "let's party." Try to make new friends, and most likely everything else you are looking for will happen. By the same token, actively mingling with other couples is encouraged; we understand that some people are more naturally outgoing than others, but if you are interested in meeting people, the best way to do it is to take the initiative to go up and say "hi!" The same open communication that allowed you as a couple to be able to participate in this lifestyle should be used when talking with other couples. Communication between all parties is the single most important factor for enjoyment of this lifestyle. Just because you are blown away with the great looking person you just met does not mean your significant other will be equally impressed with his/her partner. In other words, don't assume, just ask.
Q: What do we do next?
A: E-mail us when you are in or coming to Virginia. We look forward to meeting you or answering any and all of your questions about the greatest lifestyle ever!