Virginia's Secret

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Virginia's Secret
A Private Club for Adults

About Us

Virginia's Secret provides a fun and exciting environment for consenting adults to enjoy their uninhibited lifestyle. Explore your fantasies in a unique and exciting social Dance club atmosphere. Virginia's Secret is a Private by Invitation Only, Social Club catering to mature, open-minded adults.

Website Membership, and "SecretCard" Membership is available to select couples & single females ONLY.

Virginia's Secret is a friendly club for open minded adults. If this is your first time to a Lifestyle club then you picked the right place. Whether you're an experienced club go-er or just a bit curious, we offer a comfortable, no pressure lifestyle club environment for you to meet, eat, drink and be entertained.

We are all here to have the best times and share the uninhibited enjoyment associated with those who discover a new dimension to their lifestyle. When you visit our club and become familiar with the environment and meet some members, we are confident you will feel at ease.

Are you a bit shy? Don't worry. Many of our regular members will probably help "Break The Ice" by introducing themselves to you. It's their way of making you feel at home. There's never any pressure to do anything your not ready for, and if you simply want to sit and relax, then that's perfectly fine too. Feel free to ask questions and talk openly. You'll discover how helpful our regular members can be. Our members are polite, sophisticated and composed of a delightful variety of age (over21), culture, looks and styles.

New Couples

New Couple

We are "newbie" friendly and a great place to get your feet wet. Most couples who are talking about looking into swinging are very concerned about the basics. They don't want to be pushed or pressured. They don't want to go anywhere where they're told to remove their clothes at a certain time. They just want to go somewhere comfortable and friendly. Virginia's Secret certainly fits the bill.

We like to have conversations with prospective couples so that we can be sure they tell us their questions and we can answer them.  It's never a good thing for a couple who hasn't examined their motivation for becoming swingers to attend a party without any background. We have discovered along our journey into the lifestyle that it's really not all about sex. In fact, for us, it's mostly about finding really nice people to be friends with. The matter-of-fact approach that we take at the club makes new couples feel much less pressured right from the start.

We believe strongly that "Swinging is an attitude, not just an activity." 


How do we become Virginia's Secret members?

To become a member of Virginia's Secret, you must be a couple (male and female) or single female and have an open-minded view of human sexuality.

  1. Fill out a Membership Application that includes a G or R rated full length photograph of yourself(s) including your faces. If this is a couples application the picture should have you both pictured in a single shot. The picture must be current. No picture no approval!
  2. You will then pay a small membership fee to belong to our website Social Feed.
  3. Once you have a profile and a picture place on our Social Feed you can then get to know our web members and possibly obtain a referral to attend "ONE" of our events, to check us out.
  4. You MUST be sponsored by a current "SecretCard" member of Virginia's Secret to be invited to join us for your "One Event" as a non-SecretCard Holder/Member.
  5. If we all agree it's a good fit you will be invited to join as a SecretCard Holder, with all of the benefits given them.There is a one-time membership fee involved in becoming a "SecretCard" Holder.
  6. All SecretCard members must attend 1 out of every 3 events to maintain your membership status. Your Membership stays intact based on you fulfilling this requirement over the first year and subsequent years. You will never have to pay another membership fee. For Example:
    • 1st year Membership Fee upon joining.
    • 2nd year No Membership Fee for attending 1 out of every 3 events!
    • 3rd year No Membership Fee for attending 1 out of every 3 events!
    • 4th year etc……etc….
  7. Membership fees are due upon acceptance of membership and before you attend your second event.
  8. Not everyone who inquires or whom are members of the Virginia's Secret, Website Social Feed will be accepted as a "SecretCard" Holder/Member.
  9. Virginia's Secret maintains the right to deny or cancel membership and privileges!

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Rules & Regulations

All members attending VAS functions are expected to be courteous, law abiding and friendly at all times.

1.    No Means NO! No exceptions! Zero Tolerance!

2.    Anyone applying for membership and admission to VAS must agree to be bound by all rules, regulations & By-Laws; they must certify that they are at least 21 years of age; and that they will not use their membership to engage in prostitution or pandering. This includes the possession or use of any illegal or controlled substances in or on the property of any club function.

3.    We reserve the right to ask anyone to leave, revoke membership of any person who becomes obnoxious, unruly, engages in any illegal acts, or casts aspersions against VAS. VAS reserve's the right to refuse admission and membership to anyone without cause or explanation, as is the right of a private club.

4.    Management also prohibits the use of cameras or recording devices of any kind, and shall pursue such legal remedies available in order to preserve the rights of the club and its members.

5.    The applicant will also acknowledge that they are aware that VAS is a private club established for the use of the membership, certifying also that free expression among consenting adults is not offensive and must recognize the constitutional rights of the members.

6.    Dress to impress! Dress Code is upper casual.  Baseball caps, t-shirts and work boots is NOT acceptable unless part of a theme party! If your clothing attire is not acceptable in normal public events, please wear a cover up in the common public areas of the hotel or any club venue.

7.    Cell phone usage during a VAS party is not allowed. Should you have a call, please leave the party until your conversation is complete. Webcasting, podcasting is strictly prohibited unless sanctioned by VAS.

8.    Arguing, bickering, fighting or disrespectful behavior between you and your mate or with any other members of VS is not acceptable.

9.    Respect those who wish to be left alone. Do not be pushy or insistent upon participation in any individual or club activities. No harassment!

10. No one under the age of 21 is allowed on a secured floor of a hotel or at any club function where alcohol is. This includes inside your hotel room, around the pool, or in the house.

11. Members can only recommend other couples (male female) or a single female for membership, but VAS solely reserves the right to approve or disaprove any person from membership. No single males!

12. We reserve the right to charge a fee of our choosing to any prospective new member for membership. Fee is quoted by the owners of VAS and solely at the discretion of the owners and not necessarily the same for everyone.

Frequently Asked Questions

A: To become a member of Virginia's Secret you must be a couple or single female and have an open-minded view of human sexuality. You must be an active Member of our website Social Feed, which includes but not limited to, a profile and picture in place on the Social feed. You can then be referred by one of our "SecretCard Holders" to attend "One" event. After you attend one event you may be invited to join as a "SecretCard" Holder/Member.

A: We require "SecretCard" memberships to keep our legal status as a private club, which allows us to provide a place where both women and men can "dress down" to a g-string (or nothing) and also assures privacy for all the members.

A: No problem! At Virginia's Secret, your body is always under YOUR control and the other patrons understand and respect that. Virginia's Secret is a place to meet other folks in a "no-pressure" environment. If you are invited to a "party" and you don't wish to attend/participate, a simple "no thank you" will always suffice. We have a highly trained security staff at each and every event.

A: That's easy! Put very simply (and perhaps, bluntly), "off-premise" means that sexual acts are not permitted on the club premises. "On-premise" means (obviously) just the opposite.

A: This is a tough question to answer because this type of lifestyle is common to a large demographic cross-section of people. On the average, there are a large number of professional types of people that constitute our membership. But for the most part, it's people like yourself, who live and work around others, whom you would never suspect that are "in the lifestyle." It may surprise you if you know how many of your friends and neighbors are involved in swinging. Some of the most common similarities between our members are a love of people, making new friends, a VERY strong and secure loving relationship, combined with a love of life and a desire to live it to it's fullest!

A: The strongest age demographics of the membership are couples from their late twenties to their mid forties, but there are many couples of every age from 21 through the "senior years." With our membership being as large as it is, on any given night there's a good chance you'll find some couples you can relate to at the club.

A: FUN!!…well that's the short answer. Dancing, socializing, pool parties, road trips, house parties, M & G's, we sometimes have live bands at our events, special events, and having a good time making new friends. Yes, there is play time for those that want it. Most of our events we do provide (when possible) open and closed play rooms, sex swings, dance pole, and hot tub.

A: Not at all. You are merely "permitted" to, because this is a private club. There are many ladies that do dress provocatively, and many that don't, so either way, dress to suit your comfort level. All we ask is that you not be surprised (or offended) by this playful behavior and liberal dress code.

A: This is another tough one….the short answer? Everything. Being a DJ in this club is a very difficult job (please appreciate their efforts) because, as opposed to most nightclubs (i.e, rock bars, dance clubs, country-n-western clubs, etc) ONE type of music is not the common interest of ALL the patrons. We play "hits" of all types of music, but it's predominately Top-40 Dance with some rock (60's, 70's, 80's, and 90's), R&B, and country thrown in during the night, and the DJ will also take specific song requests from the crowd. If you have a certain song that you would like to hear feel free to ask them to play it. Do keep in mind, however, that not all the patrons have the same musical taste as you, and the DJ's will be doing their best to please everyone, so if you don't like a song being played, as the saying goes about Virginia weather, "wait a minute and it will change". No matter what we're playing, there will always be a lot of sexy bump-n-grind beats for you to dance to. This is a club where people are socializing that you might never have envisioned anywhere else. Our clientele consists of every walk of life from cowboys to attorneys, from construction workers to bankers (and a few we've promised we wouldn't mention!)…and we have never had a "major disturbance" of any kind!

A: NASCA stands for "North American Swing Club Association." It is an association that is based out of Buena Park, CA., whose main function is to promote this type of lifestyle and the clubs that cater to it. Their homepage is located at .

A: Because, this type of lifestyle is typically practiced by consenting couples. If we permitted single men to attend regularly, we would not be any different from any other "generic" nightclub. Some couples do, occasionally, enjoy the company of single males and it is for this reason that we restrict admittance to our club ONLY to single males that are invited guests of member couples in good standing. In addition, we have very specific guidelines that the single men must adhere to while accompanied by a couple. We will gladly elaborate on this at your request.

A: While an open attitude about sexual behavior is a major reason for the club's existance, most couples ("SecretCard Holders") in the club are primarily interested in making new friends, not just sexual partners. Always remember that the word "hello" means just that – not "let's party." Try to make new friends, and most likely everything else you are looking for will happen. By the same token, actively mingling with other couples is encouraged; we understand that some people are more naturally outgoing than others, but if you are interested in meeting people, the best way to do it is to take the initiative to go up and say "hi!" The same open communication that allowed you as a couple to be able to participate in this lifestyle should be used when talking with other couples. Communication between all parties is the single most important factor for enjoyment of this lifestyle. Just because you are blown away with the great looking person you just met does not mean your significant other will be equally impressed with his/her partner. In other words, don't assume, just ask.

A: Generally speaking, if you are a couple who is secure (very important) in your relationship and are looking for a little extra spice in your bedroom, then you will probably enjoy the club. On the other hand, if your relationship is on the rocks and you are looking for a way to salvage it, try counseling rather than a swing club. Although we certainly like all the business we can get, we would rather see your relationship last. Swinging is recreational more than therapeutic.

A: E-mail us when you are in or coming to Virginia or contact NASCA for the location of the swing club nearest you. We look forward to meeting you or answering any and all of your questions about the greatest lifestyle ever!


Merry XXXmas!
Dec 8th

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Naughty Santa Gift Exchange!

7:00 PM - 1:00 AM


This party is for Secret Cardholders and their guests only! Donations will be taken at the door and are always appreciated!  All donations are used for the purpose of financing events put on by Virginia's Secret for their members/SecretCard Holders, and our first time visit, invited guest.

 Each Couple please bring a sexy, fun, exciting, stupid, crazy, mechanical, hilarious, non-mechanical, freaky, tasty, nasty or downright goofy gift to exchange! (no more than $20 value and 1 gift per couple or single female.) 

As always costumes are not required, but if you choose to dress up there will be a gift for the best Christmas attire. Guys can wear funny, sexy Santa PJ’s, Tacky Christmas Sweaters, or what ever, and ladies can wear their sexy, tacky, funny, Christmas Sweaters, Apron’s, Ms Clause Costumes, and heels! Be Creative! Let’s make it fun! Great food as always!

 Hot Tub,  BYOB! (Bring your own beverage) Although we will have juice and soft drinks.

VA Secret Card Only

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You need to pay a website membership fee AND be an Approved Guest in order to attend.

If you have not applied and paid a website membership, go to the Membership section to understand the process and then Apply Online.

If you have paid a website membership, but still need to become an Approved Guest. Send an email to to request Approval.

If you are already an Approved Guest and have a Username

Approved Guest Signup/Donation

Three's Company
Jan 19th

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Couples can bring a single male to this event!

7:00 PM - 1:00 AM

3 is Company and so much fun! January needed to be different so we are breaking the rules at this party! This is the only time that you can bring a 3rd wheel (male friend). Donations will be taken at the door and we encourage your S/M friends to donate. 

Of course single females are always welcome! Virginia Secret Cardholders and their invited guests only. Couples are responsible for the singles they bring. When making your RSVP, please let us know if and who your 3rd will be,  If they are not on the list, they will not be granted access.

Virginia Secret Cardholders and their invited guests only. Of course single females are always welcome!

Play Rooms will be set up with a private Playroom for “SecretCard” holders and their invited guest. Hot tub will be rocking as usual and don’t forget the good eats. Chef Dave will be preparing Italian Stuffed Shells, for dinner.

Starts at 7 P.M.
 Bring your own favorite beverage!
 We will provide Ice and sodas!
 Donations at the door will be accepted and greatly appreciated!

VA Secret Card Only

Enter your Username


You need to pay a website membership fee AND be an Approved Guest in order to attend.

If you have not applied and paid a website membership, go to the Membership section to understand the process and then Apply Online.

If you have paid a website membership, but still need to become an Approved Guest. Send an email to to request Approval.

If you are already an Approved Guest and have a Username

Approved Guest Signup/Donation


Desire Cruise: Venice, Italy
Sep 26-Oct 3, 2017

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Desire Cruise - Venice, Italy

Sep 26-Oct 3, 2017

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Desire Cruises welcomes passengers aboard for an experience that is about to change your lives forever. Join us as we take you on an unforgettable journey of the senses, inviting you to enjoy our world renowned, Couples-only collection at sea. We have carefully selected amongst the most luxurious ships, magnificent destinations and attractive itineraries, for a full sensory over-load, to create the perfect atmosphere for you and your partner to lose yourself at sea.

Couples Only, Casino, Hot and Exciting Pool Parties!, Erotic Hot Spots , Clothing Optional Experience, 6 Distinctive Dining Options, Beautiful Suites, Play Rooms, Couples Workshops , Provocative Entertainment



Winter Vacation in Hedonism
Feb 17-23, 2018

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Virginia's Secret 1st Annual Winter Vacation!

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This is your chance to enjoy the ambiance of Jamaica with people you know and meet people you don't know! This is an all inclusive resort (airfare not included).



Please don't wait till the last minute as other groups will be there with us! Some rooms have already booked up. RSVP NOW!

Rooms starting at just $492 per night all inclusive rate.


Virginia's Secret Cardholders get free roundtrip transfers from the airport to the resort!

All Adult!

Enjoy sun, sand and clear blue waters! Enjoy dinner, show and lifestyle events every night!



Catamaran ride to Rick's Cafe *

Game Fishing*

Pools with swim up bar




heme nights

Or just relax with other lifestyle couples on the beach!

We have been there and can't wait to go back.

Please RSVP here and we will contact you to make your reservation. Yes youcan make payments but you must be 100% paid in full by 45 days Before arrival. More updates to come!