Virginia's Secret

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Virginia's Secret
A Private Club for Adults

About Us

Virginia's Secret provides a fun and exciting environment for consenting adults to enjoy their uninhibited lifestyle. Explore your fantasies in a unique and exciting social Dance club atmosphere. Virginia's Secret is a Private by Invitation Only, Social Club catering to mature, open-minded adults.

Website Membership, and "SecretCard" Membership is available to select couples & single females ONLY.

Virginia's Secret is a friendly club for open minded adults. If this is your first time to a Lifestyle club then you picked the right place. Whether you're an experienced club go-er or just a bit curious, we offer a comfortable, no pressure lifestyle club environment for you to meet, eat, drink and be entertained.

We are all here to have the best times and share the uninhibited enjoyment associated with those who discover a new dimension to their lifestyle. When you visit our club and become familiar with the environment and meet some members, we are confident you will feel at ease.

Are you a bit shy? Don't worry. Many of our regular members will probably help "Break The Ice" by introducing themselves to you. It's their way of making you feel at home. There's never any pressure to do anything your not ready for, and if you simply want to sit and relax, then that's perfectly fine too. Feel free to ask questions and talk openly. You'll discover how helpful our regular members can be. Our members are polite, sophisticated and composed of a delightful variety of age (over21), culture, looks and styles.

New Couples

New Couple

We are "newbie" friendly and a great place to get your feet wet. Most couples who are talking about looking into swinging are very concerned about the basics. They don't want to be pushed or pressured. They don't want to go anywhere where they're told to remove their clothes at a certain time. They just want to go somewhere comfortable and friendly. Virginia's Secret certainly fits the bill.

We like to have conversations with prospective couples so that we can be sure they tell us their questions and we can answer them.  It's never a good thing for a couple who hasn't examined their motivation for becoming swingers to attend a party without any background. We have discovered along our journey into the lifestyle that it's really not all about sex. In fact, for us, it's mostly about finding really nice people to be friends with. The matter-of-fact approach that we take at the club makes new couples feel much less pressured right from the start.

We believe strongly that "Swinging is an attitude, not just an activity." 

Membership

How do we become Virginia's Secret members?

To become a member of Virginia's Secret, you must be a couple (male and female) or single female and have an open-minded view of human sexuality.

  1. Fill out a Membership Application that includes a G or R rated full length photograph of yourself(s) including your faces. If this is a couples application the picture should have you both pictured in a single shot. The picture must be current. No picture no approval!
  2. You will then pay a small membership fee to belong to our website Social Feed.
  3. Once you have a profile and a picture place on our Social Feed you can then get to know our web members and possibly obtain a referral to attend "ONE" of our events, to check us out.
  4. You MUST be sponsored by a current "SecretCard" member of Virginia's Secret to be invited to join us for your "One Event" as a non-SecretCard Holder/Member.
  5. If we all agree it's a good fit you will be invited to join as a SecretCard Holder, with all of the benefits given them.There is a one-time membership fee involved in becoming a "SecretCard" Holder.
  6. All SecretCard members must attend 1 out of every 3 events to maintain your membership status. Your Membership stays intact based on you fulfilling this requirement over the first year and subsequent years. You will never have to pay another membership fee. For Example:
    • 1st year Membership Fee upon joining.
    • 2nd year No Membership Fee for attending 1 out of every 3 events!
    • 3rd year No Membership Fee for attending 1 out of every 3 events!
    • 4th year etc……etc….
  7. Membership fees are due upon acceptance of membership and before you attend your second event.
  8. Not everyone who inquires or whom are members of the Virginia's Secret, Website Social Feed will be accepted as a "SecretCard" Holder/Member.
  9. Virginia's Secret maintains the right to deny or cancel membership and privileges!

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Rules & Regulations

All members attending VAS functions are expected to be courteous, law abiding and friendly at all times.

1.    No Means NO! No exceptions! Zero Tolerance!

2.    Anyone applying for membership and admission to VAS must agree to be bound by all rules, regulations & By-Laws; they must certify that they are at least 21 years of age; and that they will not use their membership to engage in prostitution or pandering. This includes the possession or use of any illegal or controlled substances in or on the property of any club function.

3.    We reserve the right to ask anyone to leave, revoke membership of any person who becomes obnoxious, unruly, engages in any illegal acts, or casts aspersions against VAS. VAS reserve's the right to refuse admission and membership to anyone without cause or explanation, as is the right of a private club.

4.    Management also prohibits the use of cameras or recording devices of any kind, and shall pursue such legal remedies available in order to preserve the rights of the club and its members.

5.    The applicant will also acknowledge that they are aware that VAS is a private club established for the use of the membership, certifying also that free expression among consenting adults is not offensive and must recognize the constitutional rights of the members.

6.    Dress to impress! Dress Code is upper casual.  Baseball caps, t-shirts and work boots is NOT acceptable unless part of a theme party! If your clothing attire is not acceptable in normal public events, please wear a cover up in the common public areas of the hotel or any club venue.

7.    Cell phone usage during a VAS party is not allowed. Should you have a call, please leave the party until your conversation is complete. Webcasting, podcasting is strictly prohibited unless sanctioned by VAS.

8.    Arguing, bickering, fighting or disrespectful behavior between you and your mate or with any other members of VS is not acceptable.

9.    Respect those who wish to be left alone. Do not be pushy or insistent upon participation in any individual or club activities. No harassment!

10. No one under the age of 21 is allowed on a secured floor of a hotel or at any club function where alcohol is. This includes inside your hotel room, around the pool, or in the house.

11. Members can only recommend other couples (male female) or a single female for membership, but VAS solely reserves the right to approve or disaprove any person from membership. No single males!

12. We reserve the right to charge a fee of our choosing to any prospective new member for membership. Fee is quoted by the owners of VAS and solely at the discretion of the owners and not necessarily the same for everyone.

Frequently Asked Questions

A: To become a member of Virginia's Secret you must be a couple or single female and have an open-minded view of human sexuality. You must be an active Member of our website Social Feed, which includes but not limited to, a profile and picture in place on the Social feed. You can then be referred by one of our "SecretCard Holders" to attend "One" event. After you attend one event you may be invited to join as a "SecretCard" Holder/Member.

A: We require "SecretCard" memberships to keep our legal status as a private club, which allows us to provide a place where both women and men can "dress down" to a g-string (or nothing) and also assures privacy for all the members.

A: No problem! At Virginia's Secret, your body is always under YOUR control and the other patrons understand and respect that. Virginia's Secret is a place to meet other folks in a "no-pressure" environment. If you are invited to a "party" and you don't wish to attend/participate, a simple "no thank you" will always suffice. We have a highly trained security staff at each and every event.

A: That's easy! Put very simply (and perhaps, bluntly), "off-premise" means that sexual acts are not permitted on the club premises. "On-premise" means (obviously) just the opposite.

A: This is a tough question to answer because this type of lifestyle is common to a large demographic cross-section of people. On the average, there are a large number of professional types of people that constitute our membership. But for the most part, it's people like yourself, who live and work around others, whom you would never suspect that are "in the lifestyle." It may surprise you if you know how many of your friends and neighbors are involved in swinging. Some of the most common similarities between our members are a love of people, making new friends, a VERY strong and secure loving relationship, combined with a love of life and a desire to live it to it's fullest!

A: The strongest age demographics of the membership are couples from their late twenties to their mid forties, but there are many couples of every age from 21 through the "senior years." With our membership being as large as it is, on any given night there's a good chance you'll find some couples you can relate to at the club.

A: FUN!!…well that's the short answer. Dancing, socializing, pool parties, road trips, house parties, M & G's, we sometimes have live bands at our events, special events, and having a good time making new friends. Yes, there is play time for those that want it. Most of our events we do provide (when possible) open and closed play rooms, sex swings, dance pole, and hot tub.

A: Not at all. You are merely "permitted" to, because this is a private club. There are many ladies that do dress provocatively, and many that don't, so either way, dress to suit your comfort level. All we ask is that you not be surprised (or offended) by this playful behavior and liberal dress code.

A: This is another tough one….the short answer? Everything. Being a DJ in this club is a very difficult job (please appreciate their efforts) because, as opposed to most nightclubs (i.e, rock bars, dance clubs, country-n-western clubs, etc) ONE type of music is not the common interest of ALL the patrons. We play "hits" of all types of music, but it's predominately Top-40 Dance with some rock (60's, 70's, 80's, and 90's), R&B, and country thrown in during the night, and the DJ will also take specific song requests from the crowd. If you have a certain song that you would like to hear feel free to ask them to play it. Do keep in mind, however, that not all the patrons have the same musical taste as you, and the DJ's will be doing their best to please everyone, so if you don't like a song being played, as the saying goes about Virginia weather, "wait a minute and it will change". No matter what we're playing, there will always be a lot of sexy bump-n-grind beats for you to dance to. This is a club where people are socializing that you might never have envisioned anywhere else. Our clientele consists of every walk of life from cowboys to attorneys, from construction workers to bankers (and a few we've promised we wouldn't mention!)…and we have never had a "major disturbance" of any kind!

A: NASCA stands for "North American Swing Club Association." It is an association that is based out of Buena Park, CA., whose main function is to promote this type of lifestyle and the clubs that cater to it. Their homepage is located at NASCA.com .

A: Because, this type of lifestyle is typically practiced by consenting couples. If we permitted single men to attend regularly, we would not be any different from any other "generic" nightclub. Some couples do, occasionally, enjoy the company of single males and it is for this reason that we restrict admittance to our club ONLY to single males that are invited guests of member couples in good standing. In addition, we have very specific guidelines that the single men must adhere to while accompanied by a couple. We will gladly elaborate on this at your request.

A: While an open attitude about sexual behavior is a major reason for the club's existance, most couples ("SecretCard Holders") in the club are primarily interested in making new friends, not just sexual partners. Always remember that the word "hello" means just that – not "let's party." Try to make new friends, and most likely everything else you are looking for will happen. By the same token, actively mingling with other couples is encouraged; we understand that some people are more naturally outgoing than others, but if you are interested in meeting people, the best way to do it is to take the initiative to go up and say "hi!" The same open communication that allowed you as a couple to be able to participate in this lifestyle should be used when talking with other couples. Communication between all parties is the single most important factor for enjoyment of this lifestyle. Just because you are blown away with the great looking person you just met does not mean your significant other will be equally impressed with his/her partner. In other words, don't assume, just ask.

A: Generally speaking, if you are a couple who is secure (very important) in your relationship and are looking for a little extra spice in your bedroom, then you will probably enjoy the club. On the other hand, if your relationship is on the rocks and you are looking for a way to salvage it, try counseling rather than a swing club. Although we certainly like all the business we can get, we would rather see your relationship last. Swinging is recreational more than therapeutic.

A: E-mail us when you are in or coming to Virginia or contact NASCA for the location of the swing club nearest you. We look forward to meeting you or answering any and all of your questions about the greatest lifestyle ever!

Events

Get Hawaiian Lei'd
Jun 29th

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Pool Party

3:00 PM - 1:00 AM

Come Get Lei'd at our Hawaiian Pool Party for our “SecretCard Holders,” and first time invited Guests. Chef will be preparing Hawaiian Teriyaki Steak and Teriyaki Chicken. Let me tell you, it is delicious! We will be playing all of your favorite tunes. You bring your favorite beverage, Bikini, or Bathing Suit (or Not) and a towel. POOL OPENS AT 3 P.M. Food will be served AT around 6:30 P.M. CAMPING IS AVAILABLE IN OUR TENT CITY (let us know to reserve you a spot!) HOTEL IS AVAILABLE NOT TOO FAR AWAY! All reservation by first time visitors must be in by the morning before the party date.This is one party you will not want to miss! Hotel, Camping on site, Great Food, Swimming Pool, Great People, Good Times, What’s not to Love!!!


VA Secret Card Only

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GUESTS

You need to pay a website membership fee AND be an Approved Guest in order to attend.

If you have not applied and paid a website membership, go to the Membership section to understand the process and then Apply Online.

If you have paid a website membership, but still need to become an Approved Guest. Send an email to Info@VAsecret.com to request Approval.

If you are already an Approved Guest and have a Username

Approved Guest Signup/Donation

July Splash
Jul 27th

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Pool Party

3:00 PM - 1:00 AM

This is our 12th year putting on this terrific event. We always have a great crowd with lots of sexy people! This Event is open to Members and Non-Members! VIRGINIA'S SECRET invites you to join us at this Awesome Pool Party held at a PRIVATE LOCATION just west of Richmond.

You provide your favorite beverage, towel and a chair and get ready to party at the best summer lifestyle party this year....bikini and bathing suit OR NOT (LOL).Virginia's Secret only has one event a year that “Non-SecretCard Holders” can attend without a referral, and this is it!

Food Served at 6:00 p.m. DJ starts at 7 p.m. VIRGINIA'S SECRET will provide both the DJ, and BBQ Chicken.

The hosts of Virginia's Secret will be available to answer membership questions for any non-SecretCard Holders. This party is for any couple or single female who wants to attend. Anyone attending that's not a SecretCard Holder of the club must sign a privacy disclaimer. You MUST RSVP to attend! Last year we had a waiting list, and had to decline some late RSVP's as we exceeded our capacity with over 125 couples in attendance! Don't wait! RSVP Now! We will email you with directions and will answer any questions you have at that If you are confirmed. Also, feel free to bring your tent or RV as camping will be available....space is limited and you must let us know if you are camping, and in what. For all other overnight guests; there are hotels close by. If you need hotel info don't hesitate to ask. We hope to see everyone Saturday, July 27th!!!


VA Secret Card Only

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GUESTS

You need to pay a website membership fee AND be an Approved Guest in order to attend.

If you have not applied and paid a website membership, go to the Membership section to understand the process and then Apply Online.

If you have paid a website membership, but still need to become an Approved Guest. Send an email to Info@VAsecret.com to request Approval.

If you are already an Approved Guest and have a Username

Approved Guest Signup/Donation

Hot August Nights!
Aug 24th

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Pool Party

3:00 PM - 1:00 AM

VIRGINIA'S SECRET invites you to join us at this Awesome Pool Party held at a PRIVATE LOCATION just west of Richmond. Our August Party is a SecretCard Holder’s, Virginia's Secret Group Members from Swinglifestyle Groups. and “referred guest” only event. This is also a good time for the couples that were invited to become SecretCard Holders at the “OPEN” July Splash Party, to do so.

We’ll provide the Chicken BBQ, good music, pool, and FUN. You bring your favorite beverage, Bikini, or Bathing Suit (or Not) and a towel.POOL OPENS AT 3 P.M. BBQ CHICKEN SERVED AT around 6:30 P.M. CAMPING IS AVAILABLE IN OUR TENT CITY (let us know to reserve you a spot!) HOTEL IS AVAILABLE NOT TOO FAR AWAY! We must have your RSVP in by Friday morning before the event!


VA Secret Card Only

Enter your Username


GUESTS

You need to pay a website membership fee AND be an Approved Guest in order to attend.

If you have not applied and paid a website membership, go to the Membership section to understand the process and then Apply Online.

If you have paid a website membership, but still need to become an Approved Guest. Send an email to Info@VAsecret.com to request Approval.

If you are already an Approved Guest and have a Username

Approved Guest Signup/Donation

Pool Closing Party
Sep 14th

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Prime Rib

3:00 PM - 1:00 AM

Member and Staff Appreciation Party!

VIRGINIA'S SECRET invites you to join us at this Awesome Pool Party held at a PRIVATE LOCATION just west of Richmond. Winter is on it’s way, so we must once again say Bye Bye, to our summer pool events, but first we would like to give a special thank you to all of our devoted SecretCard Holders, and Wonderful Volunteers, that helped us out this past Splash season. This event starts at 3:00pm Dinner by 6:30 pm and is for SecretCard Holders and our 2019 Events Volunteers!

This will be our last chance to play in the pool and we would like to do that with all our SecretCard Holders and wonderful Volunteers.

Without you guys, our events may not have gone as smooth.

Prime Rib, with roasted baked potatoes. If you would like to bring something to share please do, but not required. This will also be, BYOB. No Glass Containers Please! Camping is Welcome! HOTEL IS AVAILABLE NOT TOO FAR AWAY! Please let us know if you plan on camping and in what, or if you need hotel information.


VA Secret Card Only

Enter your Username


GUESTS

You need to pay a website membership fee AND be an Approved Guest in order to attend.

If you have not applied and paid a website membership, go to the Membership section to understand the process and then Apply Online.

If you have paid a website membership, but still need to become an Approved Guest. Send an email to Info@VAsecret.com to request Approval.

If you are already an Approved Guest and have a Username

Approved Guest Signup/Donation

Trips

Bliss Cruise Nov 2019
Nov 8-15, 2019

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Bliss Cruise Nov 2019

Nov 8-15, 2019

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The Royal Caribbean Navigator of the Seas holds approximately 3,600 passengers. November 8 - 15th, 2019. This 7-night clothing-optional adventure will be couples only and departs from the Port of Miami with stops in Tortola, St. Thomas, and Nassau.

Bliss Cruise has dubbed this charter as a Tribute to the Eastern Caribbean.

Here are few more things that a Bliss cruise has to offer:
• Adults 21 or older only which means...NO kids allowed!
• Open decks and pool areas are clothing optional.
• Clothing optional shore excursions.
• Meet & Greets to help you break the ice and meet new people.
• Seminars that educate and allow you to explore new areas of the lifestyle.
• Multiple play areas to meet your level of comfort and interest.
• Evening entertainment and late night dance parties in various venues.
• Themed nights to add a little extra fun to dressing up & heading out for the night.

Reserve your spot now to be part of the BLISS experience. Contact us NOW to get all the details and cabin availability!

Bliss Cruise Apr 2020
Apr 20-25, 2020

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Bliss Cruise Apr 2020

Apr 20-25, 2020

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Bliss Cruise has announced its eight consecutive clothing-optional charter on board the Celebrity Infinity. This five-night cruise sets sail on April 20 - 25, 2020 from the Port of Miami, FL with stops in Nassau, Bahamas and a passenger favorite, the private Caribbean island of Labadee.

The 2020 Bliss Cruise production on the Celebrity Infinity will feature major lifestyle nightly themes, the highest quality DJ's, an all-genre presentation of hits, live music bands, daily activities designed for couples to connect, superior educational seminars, hands-on professional workshops, poolside and rooftop special events, along with the largest full-service and expanded play rooms at sea.

This lifestyle cruise is a full ship charter for adult couples 21 and over. The ship will sail with over 2,000 people that will party and play all day and all night. Book your cabin now to be part of the fun!

Contact us for cabin availability!